Dating as a Divorcee - the beginning

So these days, I wonder about dating. What in the world. Online dating is a serious joke, but can be fruitful at the same time.  I am divorced with a dog. I guess I feel like I am too old to go out to bars, especially in the town I live in. In my town, I feel like there are more meatheads than quality guys. Why is that? Is it the crazed sports enthusiasts? I am not sure, but meanwhile, I have not found the right guy.

Let me review, I have met some incredible guys, but they all have their faults – at least in my world. I do have to preface this by saying that I have the ultimate judge, aka my mother, who after my divorce said I will judge and ask a thousand questions more than I first asked.

Again, I have to back track to let you know that when I was dating my ex-husband, my mother was in mourning.  We had just lost my father about six months prior to when I started to date.  Let me tell you that when you are Daddy’s favourite, or Daddy’s girl, the change from 100% support to zero, is a big adjustment.  So, in my lacking of my father, I found the guy who would take care of me – or so I thought.

So, we date, we move in and then we get married. I loved him and his family – in Ireland. Everything was grand until some financial issues occurred.  I was very surprised that the financial issues were not because we weren’t making ends meet, but because HE was putting our lives in jeopardy.

Regardless, we ended up divorcing after a few years. I think that we had a great time together, but it clearly was not right.

So now, I am on this adventure – this dating adventure. So, I am not a night person, so going out just doesn’t make sense to me. I decided that I would go on a popular dating website. Well, to my dismay, the people who you meet are not always what you are looking for.

Granted, I have met some great guys, but already I know the majority I cannot bring home. You wonder why I can’t take them home? Well, it is because I have a mother, who wants the financial guy. Why can’t I meet the financial guy? Because I am not in that world and quite frankly, I am not sure the financial guy is the right guy for me.

Why is the financial guy not right for me? Well, at least here in my town, I have met a bunch of douche bags that are in the financial world. Plus, they are not around. Whoever I meet needs to be around for me and potentially for the child we will have. Although my father was in finance, he had this bubble existence, where he was at every game and every anything that was important to me.  It truly was a bubble, as I ask my friends who have Dads in finance and they did not experience the same.

But back to this online dating thing...there is so much to report...